It’s easy to resist the idea that we create our own reality because if you accept the idea, then you are responsible for the life you’ve created. And if you wish your life were different, the ball is in your court to make it happen. You don’t get to attribute it to (blame) circumstances beyond your control, or deny that where you are is the result of your decisions and choices.
On the upside, you can make your life what you want it to be, which feels so much better than believing you have no control over it.
But how? Most of us have had the experience of an epiphany, a moment when we see what will make our life better—maybe a more fulfilling career idea, a diet or exercise routine, going back to school or moving—only to wake up next week or next month and find yourself back in your old routine.
You’ve tried everything you can think of and you still don’t follow through. You research what it will take to make that new career idea a reality, but you don’t act on it; you try every diet and none stick; you’d love to go back to school but it’s not realistic, you have bills to pay.
Here’s the thing, the way to successfully create the reality you dream about is to understand the thinking that gets in the way. The reason you don’t act on an idea may be that you get overwhelmed by the details, or you begin to question if you can do it, or you don’t know how.
So if you go on a diet, for example, but you have the thought “I’ve never been able to do it before” that is the reality you will create. Finding the thoughts that get in the way is one part in creating the reality you desire.
Once you find the restrictive thoughts you commit to changing them. Read that again: you commit to changing them. When we are committed nothing gets in the way, anything that comes up is something to find our way around. If someone you loved fell into a sink hole you would do everything you could to help them, nothing would stop you, if one thing didn’t work you’d try another until you got them out. You wouldn’t wait until tomorrow, or take a shower, or watch Netflix first, you’d take action, over and over until it worked. That’s commitment.
Changing the way you think about a situation is the difference between those who want to and those who do.
I used to believe I would struggle with my weight for life—my mother and my brothers and sisters all struggled with their weight—that was my reality. I saw proof every time I dieted and regained the weight, every time I started exercising only to forget about it, every time I had to buy new (bigger) clothes, every time I went to Weight Watchers and listened to the women who had come back after regaining the weight.
Until the day I had the thought: there must be another way to do this. And there was. I haven’t dieted in over 15 years, I maintain a stable healthy weight, and best of all I have a healthy relationship with food. To create that reality I had to change the way I thought about weight in my life—as long as I viewed it as a struggle it was. When I let go of the struggle everything changed, the relationship with my body, with food, with exercise, it all changed. I got different results by committing to changing the way I thought.
The results you get in your life correlate directly with the effort you make. So if you walk 5 miles 3 times a week you’ll get a certain result, but if you change it up, add some hills, or sprints, or wear weights, you’ll get a different result.
It’s the same with everything in life—if you don’t push yourself out of your comfort zone you are maintaining your status-quo. If you want different results you’ll need different input.
The input is what you think, it’s your thoughts. What you think is what you get. If you want something different in your life you need to start thinking about it differently.
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