Taking the time to think about what we want in life may seem like a no brainer to some of you, and to others a waste of time. It is a simple question but I can not tell you how many times the answer is “I don’t know”.
When I was in my 30s I was fired for the first time and, after I got over the shock, I remember telling a friend’s mom: I want to take some time and figure out what I want to do. Her response has stuck with me: You know, a lot of people never take the time to think about that. I realized why pretty quickly, there were bills to be paid, my identity was wrapped up in my career, and one major obstacle: just because I “wanted” something didn’t mean I knew how to get it.
I am a fan of journaling as a way to figure out what is going on with me and it can be a great way to understand what you really want. Once you think you know what you want, if you ask yourself why and keep asking why you can clarify your “want”. So let’s say you write I want to go on a vacation. Why? Because I need to relax. Why? Because I work so much and take care of my family and I am burnt out.
Now you have some real information: you are burnt out. Why? Do you have trouble saying no? Do you get self-esteem from being the first one in and the last one out? Do you keep yourself busy to avoid something? Have you always been the one that was relied on to get things done? Now, you may still want a vacation, and that’s doable, but you also know something new about yourself that you can use to make your life less stressful in the first place.
Awareness is the way in to everything!
So what do you really want? Take a few minutes and think about that.